We started out really into toys, as most parents do (not to mention grand parents). To be financially responsible we would find deals on toys at garage sales and thrift stores. We had all types of toys over the years.
Our trend has now been to go with quality over quantity. Our house now consists of a select number of really great toy/activity selections. The main ones across the ages are Little People, Doll House, A big collection of Duplos for the little kiddos, an even bigger random box of legos for the bigger kiddos. We also have all types of sports stuff, bikes/scooters/etc., art supplies, puzzles and board games… and books… lots and lots of books. This may sound like a lot, but consider we have 4 nuggets and then take one walk inside of a Toys R Us and you can let your mind fill in the possibilities.
A few of nice benefits of this selective approach:
1) Decreases the clutter and amount that needs to be cleaned up (this is a bigger deal than you may realize)
2) Helps avoid focus on materialism that is crazy difficult in this culture (avoiding TV helps here too)
3) BIG ONE… I realized not too far back that it is really, really good for kiddos to be bored occasionally. I am blown away with what they come up with. They spend more time outside. They come up with cool ideas like making their own newspaper. All types of stuff. Think of the benefits of this creativity.
One last note… CHRISTmas and birthdays should be handled strategically. Work with your family so that they understand the types of gifts that fit the model you choose to go with. Consider a list or categories (e.g. a gift card to go do something fun). Consider possibly returning certain items or having your child donate to those in need. Try and help ensure that the focus of these events doesn’t become materialistic in your kiddos mind. These seasons can be tricky in that regard and you want to avoid a huge yearly “setback”. Plan ahead.
Enjoy them. Enjoy giving them gifts and seeing them light up. Just be smart in how you do it.